The proposed remedy to prevent micromanaging gender, and to move more quickly toward gender equality, is to break down practices or behaviors that we code as masculine or feminine and to accept people as they are without the shackles of gendered expectations

shaming a man for not reaching that ideal has scant difference from the “toxic” masculinity of men we hear so much about

Masculinity needs to adapt appropriately to a 21st century containing both feminism and women who game